Coconuts Hong Kong spoke to three different matchmakers – JJ Wu Chang of Find Love in HK, Violet Lim of Lunch Actually, and Yvonne Yung of Professionals’ Matchmaking Consultancy – to uncover the secrets of this trade and ask them about the current Hong Kong dating scene. Yvonne Yung: I think the big problem in Hong Kong’s dating scene is the proportion of girls and boys.When women age, their value in the love market diminishes quickly. There are a lot of candidates and a huge market, but the availability for the supply is insufficient for the demand in general.I would like to think that we would be friends outside the matchmaking sphere.Lim: As a matchmaker, we work closely with our singles to learn more about their preferences.Ironically, Hong Kong’s densely populated streets seem to beget a high degree of loneliness.But with there being no shortage of people, why are so many people still struggling to find love?Men often wish that women had their own thoughts and did not heavily depend on other people’s opinions. They know there is a highly competitive market for them to find men, so as long as a man is decent and the chemistry is there, the potential to date is greater.
There’s a phenomenon known as the “education squeeze”, coined by sociologists. Hence, if you put 100 men and 100 women together and ask them to pair up, at the end of the day, the two groups left: the top 20 percent most educated women, and the bottom 20 percent least educated men.
What kind of profile, physical and personality preferences do they have?
This includes age, education level, religion, ethnicity, smoking and drinking habits, height and build. We meet every one of our clients for face-to-face consultations and this matchmaker’s assessment is very important, because sometimes how clients perceive themselves may be different from how others perceive them.
JJ Wu Chang: Hong Kong is so densely populated but the problem is that that you’re consistently surrounded by strangers.
This in fact probably makes it even harder to meet people.
Violet Lim: In Hong Kong, more people are spending more hours at work and therefore, they tend to get married later and later in life.